You Are Where You Need To Be

"We fear rejection, want attention, crave affection and dream of perfection."

The hard, honest truth is rejection happens, it's how you take it that sucks or doesn't suck. Life is what you make it. It's like that playground song I used to sing with my friends.

"Nobody likes me.
Everybody hates me.
I think I'll go it worms.
Big fat juicy ones,
eeny weeny Skinny ones.
See how they wiggle and squirm."

The song itself is playful, but take a minute and think. This person, in the song, thinks they are unwanted so they decide to eat worms. They let their irrational fear of rejection control their actions. I know that I too can get discouraged and feel unwanted when I think I've been rejected. But I've had to learn not to get dejected when I've been rejected.

Attention. It's something we all want. Attention isn't a bad thing in and of itself. But when it becomes your sole purpose in life that's when things start to go a rye. If getting attention is your only goal in life, what happens when you fail? We want people to notice us. It becomes a problem when one wants everybody to notice them. It's virtually impossible. You can't and won't get the attention of everyone in the world. So stop trying! Be happy with the people who notice you for you. That's the attention that matters.

I talked about affection in a previous post, so I'll just paraphrase. Affection is of the heart. As a society we have lost the meaning of true affection. As a society we confuse affection with physical pleasure. But the hard stone truth is that affection is not of this world. It is of God's world. It is of God's kingdom. The affection we all crave is found in heaven with our Father.

And lastly perfection. The truth about perfection. IT DOESN'T EXIST!! There may be that perfect date or the perfect hair style. But those things are subjective. Everyone has their own opinion on those things. Therefore something that is perfect for one person could be complete murder to another. There is no perfection on this earth. We can try. We can tire ourselves out searching for it. But we won't find it here.

So if you see yourself in any of these four things. It is natural. It means you're human. But take a step back next time you get discouraged about the way your life is panning out. You are exactly where you need to be.



Do not say, “Why were the old days better than these?” For it is not wise to ask such questions. When times are good, be happy; but when times are bad, consider this: God has made the one as well as the other. Therefore, no one can discover anything about their future. (Ecclesiastes 7:10, 14 NIV)