John Green

"It hurt because it mattered."

As kind of a follow up to my last post, I find this quote most appropriate. Things only hurt your heart when they matter. The more they matter, the more it'll hurt. I often find myself saying that worth is arbitrary. No one can tell you that it doesn't matter. If it matters to you, it matters! So don't let anyone tell you that a particular situation shouldn't hurt you or that something that is getting under your skin doesn't matter. It matters. Maybe to them, but it matters. You wouldn't be feeling a certain way if it didn't. Of course i am speaking hypothetically, but there is always room to prepare.

The next time someone has the never to tell you your feelings don't matter chop them in the neck so that when they get upset you can just say, "You're alright. It doesn't matter." Okay maybe you don't have to use violence to get your point across. Words can be just as or more effective. I'm hoping that my words will give you a little perspective. don't just push your feelings aside as if they are burdens because some ignorant soul had the audacity to tell you that your emotions don't matter.

In my opinion, the phrase "it doesn't matter" is a way to say "I don't care enough about your problem to help you get through this." That's not a friend. That's not even someone you should be trying to get advice, support or comfort from. That person may be loads of fun. But they do not meet your needs at the moment. Go seek help elsewhere because your hurt matters.